Whenever you state your claim, there is a certain position of defense that you take on. If you’re telling the truth and are accused of the opposite, you begin to identify pieces of evidence to defend yourself. Facts, alibis, witnesses, and any other piece of information that can support the truth. Even the infamous “I swear” can be used in desperation. When you’re lying and are called out on it, it is not uncommon to lie some more just so your tracks can get covered. The “I swear” is often used in this situation, as well. Why does this happen? Why do others doubt our words and why do we feel the need to defend ourselves so much? The answer is because we as humans lie too much.
If the statement we always presented was the truth, then it would never be questioned. There would be no reason to doubt a person that has never lied before. Why would you not trust the words of someone who has never gone against what they say? However, as soon as that first lie is told and discovered, that trust is gone. The person, who once was always honest, now holds no credibility. There is now reason to question whether or not the truth is being told.
You should never feel the need to get defensive. If you’re telling the truth, then, in due time, that will reveal itself. You shouldn’t have to explain and defend. Simply state the truth and let the rest happen, even if they are doubtful of you. That doubt will fade as the truth becomes your consistent answer. If you’re lying, then you have no right to get defensive or offended. By pointing out your lie, they are simply reflecting your ugly truth out into the exterior. Instead of defending your lie, change your ways so that defending is no longer necessary. Always let your truth speak for itself.