We have officially welcomed the new year and are starting a new time in our lives. This is mostly a time of reflection on the past year and an opportunity to set goals for the year to come. And, although I believe change can be initiated at any time as long as the motivation is there, I also believe the new year serves as a good marker to indicate each person’s progress. In terms of reflection, I have learned two things during the past year… perfection is nearly impossible and welcome change because it is inevitable.
As humans, we don’t like to accept the flaws in ourselves, in our environments, and in our lives, but, as soon as we stop expecting perfection, we will be much happier with our situations. For example, as we enter a new year, we set our resolutions and look forward in the hopes of a perfect year, but, as the year goes on, things happen that don’t fit into a perfect year plan. However, imperfections are natural. It is how we react to these unforeseen “bumps,” which will determine how good your year will actually be. Mortality, break ups, disagreements, and rejections are all bound to be a part of the new year. They are all bound to evoke change and change is inevitable, but it is not always bad.
When a person dies, we who are still alive mourn their death. We miss them, we’re hurt, and, sometimes, we’re surprised. These are natural responses to death, but they are also selfish. Though we must grieve and take time to cope with loss in a healthy manner, eventually, we must understand that our loved one was in pain. They were suffering and, although no new memories will be made, we can be grateful for the memories we do have.
In break ups you must think “is it possible that two people are better off apart than together?” Was the relationship positive and productive? Break ups are most difficult because the drastic change scares us. You are single again, you’ll eventually need to date again, and you’ll need to trust in another person all over again. Essentially, all of the “progress” you’ve made seems wasted and you’re back to square one. However, a lot of good can come from a creak up. It can be an end to what was actually a toxic relationship, it can be a chance for you to explore a relationship with a more compatible partner, and it can force you to mature into a better person.
With these examples, my point is to welcome change because there is always a plus no matter how low this change make you feel. The same goes for disagreements, rejection, pressure, and anything else that may have forced a shift or some kind of change in your life. Your perspective may have changed, you may have learned something new, or you may have reached something you never thought was possible. Simply embrace the change.
The past year been a rocky one with plenty of highs, lows, and overall change. Can I say I had perfect year? Absolutely not, but I can point out enough great things that happened in the past 365 days allowing me to say 2014 was still a good year.
As for this upcoming year, I can’t say it will be perfect (and I can’t expect it to be either), but I can say it will be a good year filled with positive change. I have my goals set and I know the direction I would like to move toward (which is mostly driven by positive thinking), but I will welcome whatever comes my way and will do everything I can to make every experience a positive one. I hope you all will do the same and I hope 2015 is good to you.