Change is natural. We as individuals have to evolve, so don’t expect a person to be the same individual they were five years ago. It’s unrealistic and would actually be quite worrisome, if a person lived their entire life with no growth in character. People will always be different no matter how small the change is. Now, I’m definitely not saying that people should become unrecognizable throughout the years, but I am suggesting that growth should be evident as time passes because, after all, that’s what living is all about. Of course, there are parts of a person that can withstand the events of life and remain almost completely in tact. This can be anything from a person’s humor or good heart all the way to their favorite food or home. These kinds of things can be so engrained in the individual that they will always be true to them. They are consistent throughout a person’s lifespan. However, other traits are more malleable and subject to change. As a person meets new people, lives through new experiences, and learns new things, they grow, evolve, and, hopefully, progress. They absorb this newfound knowledge, reforming parts of themselves to adapt to the new era of their lives. They change in order to make sense of where they are in life, in the world, and in themselves.
Change is a part of growth and, although negative change is possible, positive change is the goal. As a person, you always want to aim for better. You want to make sure that your live with an upward trend, not hitting your peak too early. On that note, keep in mind that a change can be just as positive or negative as you want it to be. If you understand the ways that something negative can better you and your life, then it may not have been such a bad thing to begin with. It all depends on how you choose to react to your evolution. The important part is accepting it and embracing it until the change is positive. Also, don’t be so concerned with what others might think of your changes. Yes, it is important to not be abrasive and careless toward the significant people in our lives and you never want to try to devalue others, but people who knew you way back when must realize that change is inevitable, while people who are just meeting you won’t even be able to tell the difference, so their opinions shouldn’t affect you in the first place. As long as the changes made are positive and true to your character, then nothing else matters. No one can tell you what your style is and no one can tell you what you’ve experienced either. Change is a part of life and everyone must accept that. You just have to make sure that this change is natural and beneficial to your life.