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Hold Nothing Back


If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my twenty one years of life, it’s that having no regrets is one of the most satisfying things in the world.  You never have to wonder what could have been and you’ll never have to look back at the past, thinking the phrase “what if.”  Everybody is faced with choices on a daily basis and we are forced to make decisions that we are going to live with for the rest of our lives, no matter how big or small.  I don’t know about you, but I would much rather make a decision that I firmly believe in, rather than one I was coerced into.  I try to live my life in a way that is honest and genuine.  If I think something is right, then I’d rather do that.

When it comes to my family and friends, I tell them I love them, I am affectionate toward them, and I help them in their times of need in any way that I can.  I don’t want any of them to disappear, leaving me feeling like I could’ve done more for them, even if it was simply making them feel more loved.  If I love them and care for them, I want them to know right then and there, not when it’s too late.  When it comes to my goals and my career in general, I want the choices I make to be based off of what I believe is the best thing, not what society believes is the best thing.  I would rather take a risk, nurturing a passion for the arts and independence, then “give up” and apply for a traditional job.  If I don’t dedicate myself to what I believe in first, then I’ll never know if it could have worked in the first place.

Regrets are horrible because you can’t make them go away so easily.  The past is the past and it can’t be changed.  Although your mind can be changed and the way you look at the past can be altered, it is much easier said than done.  I would rather not have to go through the trouble of regretting in the first place.  I prefer to be honest with myself and make a decision I can live with, than one I have to erase from my memory.  I do have some regrets, but they’re entirely from situations that happened years ago, before I even knew what I wanted in life.  I’m still coping with those regrets, so I have no intentions of adding anything more to the list.  I fully intend to live my life to the fullest to ensure I never look back wondering what could have been.




Everyone has to deal with external factors in their life.  There are some things that we can’t foresee or control at all.  However, I think that we always have a choice.  The way we react to these uncontrollable variables in our life is where our free will comes into play.  For example, people get sick.  It’s never planned and most times sickness has the worst possible timing, but it’s usually something that you just have to deal with until it’s gone.  You have to readjust your life until you’re healthy again, but you still have a choice.  In this case, you can choose to take medicine, still go to work, email your homework to your professor, lay in bed for the rest of the day, and the list goes on of how you can adapt to being sick.  They always vary, but you still have a choice.  When you’re thrown a curve ball, you can choose to catch it, dodge it, or get hit by it.  If you’re focused enough, catching a good pitch and dodging a bad one will be no problem.  You’ll be able to weigh your options and make a quick decision just in time.  But, if you let yourself get caught up in the world around you, I can almost guarantee that you’re gonna get hit hard.

But I will say, no matter which way your life goes, you have to take responsibility for your situation.  Own up to the fact that you had a choice and you picked wrong.  It happens.  Hindsight is twenty twenty, but, unfortunately for everyone, we live in the moment and can’t see hindsight as our life is unfolding.  We all make mistakes and there will be plenty of times where we make poor choices individually, but, if you don’t accept that you didn’t make the best decision, then how do you accept to move forward in the right direction?  The worst thing a person can do is blame their situation on another person because, at the end of the day, you always have a choice.  Even if you’re born into a situation, you can always find a better way and I can say that from experience.  No one is a victim of their surroundings, but a victim of their reaction to their surroundings.

Rather than trying to place blame, try to evaluate your options so that you can pick the best one.  You always have a choice, but it’s up to you to be smart about what you choose to do.  If you don’t like your current situation, make better choices.  Make sure everything you do works towards what you want and that what you want is what you need.  Just own up to your situation and your decisions.  It’s your life, so you can’t blame someone else for living it for you.

The Life of the Damned


Damned if you do.
Damned if you don’t.
Choose one
and the other suffers,
so how do you move forward?
Do you choose the path of least resistance?
The one that will carry on the facade,
but will break your back underneath the cloak.
Or do you choose the one where fire awaits?
The one that will break you down each day
until you can only build yourself up.
Do you choose to please others?
The ones who make life unlivable.
Or do you choose to please yourself?
The one you have to live with forever.
Damned if you do.
Damned if you don’t,
but not if you choose what you can’t live without.

Ink or No Ink?


To get a tattoo or to not get a tattoo?  This is the question that a lot of my generation brothers and sisters are asking themselves.  Many of them have already made the choice and are inked up, but most are still in limbo.  One problem is they may not want a tattoo, but feel pressure to indulge in the “rebellious” act.  Then, there’s the issue for those who do want a tattoo, but feel the negative judgement from society.  What do I say?  I say, do what you want.  At the end of the day, it’s your body and your choice.  No one can tell you differently.  Sure, there are plenty of arguments against getting ink, but just like anything else, they have their fallacies, too.

For starters, I’ve heard time and time again that your body is your temple and that marking it with tattoos is sacrilegious.  First off, if we’re going to get into the nitty-gritty of this interpretation of the Bible, then that means no piercings, no hair treatments, no surgery (plastic or not), no junk food, no nothing.  These are all things that tamper with the purity of your temple, yet I see it everyday with Christians and non-Christians alike.  I think putting a hole in your ear, like a tattoo, can be considered pretty invasive to your temple, but, then again, little baby girls who can’t even walk yet are already sporting studs in their ears.  Second, if your body is your temple, then shouldn’t you be able to choose how you adorn it?  I mean, you already get to choose what clothes you wear, right?  Tattoos are seen as art that can enhance your body and soul’s beauty.  It is definitely a form of self-expression, just like clothes, and, if we are all unique, our forms of self-expression can differ to the point of having tattoos or not.  I don’t see the harm in that.

Another common blow against permanent body art deals with the oh so necessary job.  It’s absolutely true that a lot of employers aren’t too excited to see an applicant with tats, which is why you have to think about where on your body you get your tattoos.  Please don’t get a face tattoo if you’re trying to get a government job.  (Those are just two worlds that find it hard to get along.)  I have to admit that those tattoos are leaning toward the irresponsible side of things.  You have to remember that you’re an adult and you have to be conscious of the lifelong decisions you make… like getting a face tattoo.  However, I will say that times are changing and employers need to realize that tattoos are becoming much less taboo.  Tattoos are no longer the sole jurisdiction of criminals and vagabonds, but more so a universal form of individualism and expression.  Plus, as long as the applicant is qualified, it really shouldn’t matter what they look like.  Tatted or not, if the guy is the best for the position, then he should get it, no questions asked.  But, like I said before, we all have to pull our own weight, so, if you need to look professional, make sure those tats can be hidden away nicely.  You’ll always have to do some compromising in life!

Then, finally, there’s that belief that you’ll look weird or be tired of your tattoos when you’re old.  First off, why are you thinking about what you’re gonna look like in 50 years?  That’s in 50 years!  Second, this idea is totally subjective.  This is purely an opinion based argument.  Honestly, if you truly love your tattoo and if the meaning is still important to you when you’re 70 years old, then I don’t think you’ll ever regret your ink.  Now, if you tattooed your ex’s name on your forehead after a night of partying, then I think that’s a completely different story.  The most important thing to think about when getting a tattoo is to think about its significance.  You don’t have to explain it to anybody or hope that others see its importance, but you have to know why you’re getting it.  If you can live the rest of your life thinking that the tattoo was worth it, then you should have no worries of regretting it in 50 years.

Now, I am not saying get a tattoo, but I’m not saying don’t get one either.  What I am saying is do what feels right for you.  If you feel like you can live without a tattoo, then there’s no point in you getting one, but, if you feel like you need to express something to yourself through a tattoo, then, by all means, do so.  Tattoos are centered around the individual who wears them.  You should be able to choose if you get one or not and I think you’d be actually quite generous by hearing the input of others because, ultimately, you should do what you want without the influence of others.  Don’t get a tattoo because someone tells you to, but don’t forget about getting a meaningful one just because your girlfriend said not to.

Also, if you see someone with a tattoo, don’t judge them.  (Doesn’t the Bible teach that, too?)  You have no idea what their tattoos mean, so don’t even try to assume.  For all you know, all of their tattoos can be an homage to their dead little brother or Jesus Christ himself.

Now, again, I’m not advocating reckless tattoos.  If you’re going to get a tattoo, make sure you think long and hard about it.  Make sure it means something more than the fact that you were bored.  If your body truly is your temple, then you have a responsibility to not vandalize it with nonsense, but instead fill it with meaning.  If you plan on being employed, think about what you’ll be able to hide when necessary.  If you don’t want to regret your tattoos when you’re 70, make sure their meanings will last a lifetime for you.  From there, the choice is yours.

A Very Chic Pink Carpet!


Last night, Fox aired the 14th Annual Teen Choice Awards where tweens, teens, and adults reliving their golden years can rejoice and enjoy entertainment.  The youngsters of show biz all came out on the pink carpet to accept awards, give awards, perform, and to just look pretty… and that they did.  Besides the major wins for The Vampire Diaries cast and the “As Long As You Love Me” performance by JB and Big Sean, the never-ending fashion is what kept me watching the TCAs.  It’s summer, it was the Teen Choice Awards, and I’m so glad that the stars got that memo.  I was thoroughly loving the colors, the sparkle, and the fun choices, so now onto my favorites.

Kat Graham and Selena Gomez made me proud with their bright color choices and sexy styles.  Kat represented short girls everywhere with her body hugging mini dress and very high heels.  The colorful print against her skin and dark hair made her look like an Amazonian princess and I was loving it.  Add in the to die for heels with the perfect make-up and Kat definitely got my vote for best dressed.  Selena Gomez came in a close second for best dressed hands down.  No bold print for Selena, but the hot pink was plenty.  The cut of the dress itself flattered her body well with a sexy yet sweet essence to it.  (Don’t ask me how that works… it just does.)  The whole look was accented with nude heels, a gold bracelet, and pin straight hair.  Some pink lips and a smokey eye put it all together for a beautiful day on the carpet.

In the world of glitz and glam, Hayden Panettiere and Lea Michele brought their A game.  Hayden stood out on the pink carpet with a short, purple-sequined number.  The ruffle at the hem was a nice detail, in my opinion, and I appreciate the fact that Hayden kept the rest simple.  You don’t need much with a dress that bold, so kudos for that.  Lea also wore a dress that definitely spoke for itself, so she kept the rest low-key.  She surely chose to show off her sex appeal in a silver strapless mini.  Some texture, peplum accents, and a nice tan completed the look.

The boys didn’t seem intimidated by the pink carpet either and a few of them certainly brought their best.  Jackson Rathbone stole my heart in a casual yet chic ensemble.  A pair of dark jeans, a button up with his sleeves rolled up, and a few accessories was all Jackson needed for the TCAs and I couldn’t agree more.  He gave off a very relaxed and youthful vibe, which I think is perfect for this kind of event.  Colton Haynes also showed his finest side with an elegant blazer paired with a funky yellow shirt.  Someone definitely embraced the idea that these award shows are meant to be enjoyed!

As always, there were a few honorable mentions that I couldn’t leave behind.  Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi got cutest couple in my book, while No Doubt didn’t lose their fashion sense during their hiatus.  I was loving Victoria Justice’s bold high-low dress and it was nice to see Taylor Swift in her classic attire.

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Your Choice



Ever since you can remember, it owned your heart.

You got anxious and sad whenever you were apart.

It brought you joy and freedom that you’ve never ever felt,

releasing everything with which you’ve ever dealt.

You learned, grew, and became better because of it.

The two of you were always such a perfect fit.


Now, you’re faced with a choice that you absolutely hate.

A big one that influences your fate.

You already know which path you’ll take,

even though it’s a decision you’d rather not make.

But no worries and do not fear.

A potential solution is near.

After all,

could you really let something you love like that go?

Not at all.  No.


Kids’ Choice Fashion Choices


This past weekend Nickelodeon aired its 2012 Kids’ Choice Awards and it included everything you think it would.  Teen celebrities, green slime, and the infamous orange carpet.  Just before heading inside the Galen Center in Los Angeles, all of the biggest names in tween idolatry strut their casual chic outfits on the KCA orange carpet for the rest of the world to see.  Many of the celebs took advantage of the light atmosphere and wore something fun and youthful.

Selena Gomez gets my vote for best dressed of the night with her two piece look.  The midriff top is sexy, but still age appropriate for her and the event.  This is a kid’s show after all.  The funky pattern on her skirt keeps everything fun and fashionable, but the overall light hues keeps the look from being an eyesore.  The pop of pink with the limited accessories was a great choice on Selena’s part.  The youthful make up and the wavy hair takes this outfit to an A+.

Ariel Winter was another young famous face who aced her orange carpet look.  Her white patterned dress with a little poof at the hem was very Shirley Temple-esque and I must admit that I approve.  It was cute and classic, but with enough flare to help her stand out.  Kristen Stewart also looked great in an all over blue lace mini dress.  Her sleek pony tail and lack of accessories helped keep the dress front and center and I loved it… Not to mention the fact that her hazel eyes complimented her dress very nicely.

Keeping it classic, but still modern was Kelly Osbourne in a black one shoulder dress.  Her shimmery textured skirt paired with hot pink heels and her colorful hair gave her outfit that childish pop that it needed.  I think that Jennifer Stone also looked nice in a red and orange flowy gown.  The colors are great for the warming weather, but some more sparkle would have really set this outfit off.

Some of the boys didn’t disappoint in their fashion sense either.  Diggy Simmons earned an A for his very blue look.  His jacket and kicks are pretty awesome and you can’t go wrong when you pair it with jeans and a white tee.  So kudos to Diggy for knowing which pieces to emphasize.  The up and coming British boy band, One Direction, also made the fashion gods proud with their country club inspired attire.  I’m not a big fan of the hair, but we can’t all be perfect, right?  Last but not least was Glee’s Chris Colfer.  He kept his look very casual, but somehow still managed to look chic.  I guess that’s the way to go when you know you’re going to get slimed!

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