When you start your life, you’re constantly surrounded by other people. They may be family, friends, classmates, or anybody else, but you are rarely left alone. Not only are you hardly ever unaccompanied, but what you do usually is closely linked to the plans of others. Think about it. In school, you graduate with your classmates and the school system already has determined which classes you need to take in order to do so. With your family, if they move, so do you. When it comes to your friends, you probably won’t go to a party unless they go, too. Your plan is so structured by everything around you that you barely have time to process what you actually want for yourself.
Your life depends so much on others and your surroundings that, often times, you feel bound to them. It’s hard to let go of classmates that you’ve gone to school with since the fifth grade and your family’s opinion has a big effect on your personal decision-making. Without these people, your life could not be, which, in some sense, is true; however, everyone reaches a point when it is time to be independent and you have to come first. You become self-sufficient, you determine your own life goals, and it is up to you to fulfill your life. This is the point when you have to aim for self-actualization, regardless of others.
During this time, there may come points when your longtime bonds with people may challenge the plan you’ve set for yourself. You don’t want to leave those people behind and you don’t want to neglect them in any way, yet what you’ve set out to do may not strictly revolve around them. You have to be able to make yourself a priority and truly make an effort to create a life that you are happy with. Now, I don’t think you should continue on and forget about the important people from your past, but I do think that you should live your life.
People live their lives every day and they live it for themselves. They don’t live for others, so neither should you. Strive to reach your goals, have fun with the people you love, and do what makes you happy. People may judge or not understand it, but it doesn’t matter because it’s not their life. As long as you don’t sacrifice what you believe to be important, just do you and that’s all I can say.