Dedicated to Mami, my mother’s mother, and her mother’s mother:
I can hear her humming in a distant room.
She sings songs of her childhood
that were from her mother’s time
and the time of her mother’s mother.
No slowing down.
Just the rummaging of what she’s getting done
and the sounds of her voice.
A few sighs here and there may be heard,
but never a malicious word.
She goes about her business,
finishing every chore with perfection,
while lightening the load of those around her.
Her humming is soothing like a lullaby,
but with a melody that keeps her going.
It takes me home to my island.
It takes me home to my childhood.
It is the humming I love most.
The humming of my mother,
my mother’s mother,
and her mother’s mother.
A mother is not the one who held you in the womb for nine months, but the one who fell in love with you in her womb, who dreamt about you for nine months, and nurtured you before the world met you. A mother is not the one who went into labor and screamed in agony, but the one who gave you life and cried tears of joy. A mother is is not the one who sets rules, teaches lessons, or forces standards, but the one who guides you, encourages you to learn lessons, and lets you reach beyond any limitations. A mother is not the one who provides a house, but the one who gives a home and creates a family. A mother is the one who raised you. She is the one who loves you unconditionally.
She is your mother. Your only mother.
Today, I celebrate the woman who gave birth to me and raised me. Literally, if it wasn’t for her, I would not be here today and I am so thankful for her existence. My mom can be crazy, hot tempered, and misunderstood, but, above all things, she is my mom and I will always love her, appreciate her, and respect her. Yes, she has her moments of nagging, over protectiveness, and suffocating affection, but she’s a mother of three. Point out a mother who doesn’t do those things. Of course, during those moments she’ll get an irritable daughter or son trying to push her away, but, in the end, it’s all out of love. I can honestly say that my mom is among the most caring, loving, and selfless people I know, which is exactly why she wins over virtually anyone who crosses paths with her. Ask anyone of my friends and they will tell you how sweet she is. I give my mom a hard time sometimes, but she knows that my sarcasm and tough love is just exactly that love. I’ll go easy on her today, since it is her birthday and all, but I hope that, regardless of what day it is, she never forgets how loved and appreciated she is. My mother has been good to me throughout my twenty-one years of life and I hope I’ve been just as good to her because she deserves nothing less.
I’ll try to keep this as simple as possible, but I just want to express the fact that I could not have a better mom. I know everyone says it about their mothers and it sounds so cliché, but, if you really think about it, it is so true. There is no other woman who knows me as well as my mother or who loves me like my mom does. She has brought me so many good memories and she has taught me countless, priceless life lessons that I will remember forever. My mom is the one person who takes care of me, unconditionally, no questions asked. She loves me no matter what and she supports me like no other. I can honestly say that I have the best mom because there is no other woman who could be a better mother to me. She is a perfect fit in my life with all of her quirks and flaws included, and I am so thankful to have her.
With that being said, I want to wish my mom a very happy mother’s day. I also want to wish all of the other mothers reading this a happy mother’s day. You all have children who are the perfect fit for you and you are the perfect mom for them. I hope everyone enjoys this special day and gets the opportunity to share it with their loved ones.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Your whole life you’re told that your family is your number one support system and that they are the only ones that will never leave you alone. In my case, this is absolutely true. 20 years ago God gave me the best gift I could ever ask for and that is a place in the Figueroa-Ramirez clan. I was given a brother, a sister, a father, and a mother, who all promised to take care of me and protect me in any way that they could just as I will do the same for them. Throughout the years, we have argued, we have laughed, and our bond has been tested, but no matter what, we have never left each other’s side. My father will do whatever he can to look out for myself, my siblings, and my mother. My mom will always put her kids first, even if we ask her not to. My sister will always play the role of big sister, being there whenever she’s needed. My brother will forever hold the title of the protective big brother, prepared to fight in any battle. But God has blessed me even more by allowing us to add another member to our family. Though we don’t share the same blood and he’s not even an in-law yet, he has proven his commitment to this family through thick and thin, which I am forever grateful for.
Family is meant to be the group of people who you may not like all of the time, but you will always love. They are the ones who will tell you the truth and give you advice with your best interest at heart. They will never leave your side, especially when you have nothing to give back to them, but a simple thank you. They shouldn’t do you favors to benefit them, but instead to lighten your burden. They’ll keep your secrets, take on your pain, and will help solve your problems with you. I feel blessed to say that my family is exactly like this. I have recently learned that sometimes a bit of pride, but mostly being conscious that everybody has their own issues to deal with can get in the way of asking for help when you need it the most. Why let others know of your struggle when they have their own worries and responsibilities? Because they’re your family and if you can’t turn to them for help, who can you turn to?
Family may not always be blood or the traditional mother, father, and 2.5 kids make-up, but family is always the one group of people who will find the means to help each other, even when it seems impossible.
They’ve known you your whole life, even before you had a name. They did everything that you couldn’t do for yourself when you were a baby. They probably cried on your first day of kindergarten. They hung up your bright, abstract drawings on the fridge. They worry too much. They miss you when you’re gone. They still call you their baby and that’s what you’ll always be to them. They love you. They are mothers.
If you haven’t done so already, wish your mommy a happy mother’s day. Tell her how grateful you are to have her in your life. Thank her for everything she has already done and what she will probably do in the future. Let her know how much you love her and how much you truly need her. Remember, that not every mother is perfect. Not all relationships between moms and they’re kids are wonderful, but you’ll never have another mom. She will forever be the only woman who raised you and loved you like nobody else, so there’s always something to thank your mom for. She gave birth to you. She fed you. She warned you about her mistakes. She gave you a curfew, so you’d be safe. She hugged you for no reason. She loves you inconditionally.
If you have your mother close to you, be happy that you can see her whenever you please. If you’re mother lives in another state or another country, at least she is only a phone call or flight away. If your mom is no longer with you, then remember the time you had with her and cherish those memories. Always appreciate your mother, no matter where she is now.
I am lucky enough to still have my mommy very close to me and, if it were up to her, it would be like that forever. My mom is amazing and I can’t imagine my life without her. Maybe I’m a little bias, but there is no other mom in the world like mine. She is my mami and she’s the best one I could ever ask for. She takes care of me when I’m sick, waking up in the middle of the night and making sure I’m as comfortable as possible. She asks me how my day went and always kisses me goodnight. Whenever I need anything, she is always there. Thanks to her I have two awesome siblings that in their own weird ways are irreplaceable. Thanks to her I am the person that I am today. She taught me about hard work, how to be a good person, and to remember where I came from. With her guidance, myself and my siblings continue to live life in a positive direction.
To say it more simply (because knowing my mom she’s already crying), I am so grateful for my mami and I love her so much.
Happy Mother’s Day Mami! I hope you have a wonderful and relaxing day.
I saw this video for the first time a LONG time ago and I fell in love with this song. In honor of Mother’s Day, which is tomorrow (last minute shoppers and our forgetful children you still have one day left!) and my special appreciation for my mommy, I thought it would be a good idea to share this video with all of you. Enjoy!