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2015 is Welcome

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We have officially welcomed the new year and are starting a new time in our lives.  This is mostly a time of reflection on the past year and an opportunity to set goals for the year to come.  And, although I believe change can be initiated at any time as long as the motivation is there, I also believe the new year serves as a good marker to indicate each person’s progress.  In terms of reflection, I have learned two things during the past year… perfection is nearly impossible and welcome change because it is inevitable.

As humans, we don’t like to accept the flaws in ourselves, in our environments, and in our lives, but, as soon as we stop expecting perfection, we will be much happier with our situations.  For example, as we enter a new year, we set our resolutions and look forward in the hopes of a perfect year, but, as the year goes on, things happen that don’t fit into a perfect year plan.  However, imperfections are natural.  It is how we react to these unforeseen “bumps,” which will determine how good your year will actually be.  Mortality, break ups, disagreements, and rejections are all bound to be a part of the new year.  They are all bound to evoke change and change is inevitable, but it is not always bad.

When a person dies, we who are still alive mourn their death.  We miss them, we’re hurt, and, sometimes, we’re surprised.  These are natural responses to death, but they are also selfish.  Though we must grieve and take time to cope with loss in a healthy manner, eventually, we must understand that our loved one was in pain.  They were suffering and, although no new memories will be made, we can be grateful for the memories we do have.

In break ups you must think “is it possible that two people are better off apart than together?”  Was the relationship positive and productive?  Break ups are most difficult because the drastic change scares us.  You are single again, you’ll eventually need to date again, and you’ll need to trust in another person all over again.  Essentially, all of the “progress” you’ve made seems wasted and you’re back to square one.  However, a lot of good can come from a creak up.  It can be an end to what was actually a toxic relationship, it can be a chance for you to explore a relationship with a more compatible partner, and it can force you to mature into a better person.

With these examples, my point is to welcome change because there is always a plus no matter how low this change make you feel.  The same goes for disagreements, rejection, pressure, and anything else that may have forced a shift or some kind of change in your life.  Your perspective may have changed, you may have learned something new, or you may have reached something you never thought was possible.  Simply embrace the change.

The past year been a rocky one with plenty of highs, lows, and overall change.  Can I say I had  perfect year?  Absolutely not, but I can point out enough great things that happened in the past 365 days allowing me to say 2014 was still a good year.

As for this upcoming year, I can’t say it will be perfect (and I can’t expect it to be either), but I can say it will be a good year filled with positive change.  I have my goals set and I know the direction I would like to move toward (which is mostly driven by positive thinking), but I will welcome whatever comes my way and will do everything I can to make every experience a positive one.  I hope you all will do the same and I hope 2015 is good to you.

What Comes First?

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Raise your hand if you have a job. Raise your other hand if you go to school. Stand up if you have friends. Take a step forward if you’re in a relationship. Step to the left if you have a family. Take a step back if you have bills you need to pay. Step forward again if you have a hobby. Step back again if you need a break. Did you get all of that? Are you tired? Are you confused? Well, that’s life. Life is full of so many different components that require your attention that it’s mentally exhausting and it’s hard trying to keep track of everything. So what do you do? You figure out what comes first and cut out all of the bullsh!t. If you don’t need it, why keep it?

First, you need to evaluate your priorities. What should come first? It could be school, work, or even just finding time to yourself, but you need to identify your priority and why it’s your priority. For example, for a long time, my priority was to do well in school and to graduate as soon as possible. I knew I wanted to have a strong career and that getting an education was the first step. Your priority could be to get a job in order to gain experience for a better job, to buy a car, or own a home. Your priority could also be to relax because you don’t want to have a mental breakdown that keeps you from doing anything at all. The point is that you need to figure out what is most important to you and why. As soon as you figure that out, organize your life to help you focus on your priority. Of course, you don’t want to become a workaholic or a studying hermit, so you want to maintain some balance, but you do have to rearrange some things so that you can achieve your goals. Hence cut out what you don’t need.

When you reflect on your life, where you’ve been, where you are, and where you want to be, it helps put everything into perspective. You realize what really matters and what deserves your energy, so you stop stressing out about the little things and instead pay attention to what is important to you. Sometimes we get lost in the confusion of our lives. There’s so much going on that it’s easy to get overwhelmed and we end up losing ourselves a little. What’s worst is when the lives and priorities of those around us overshadow our own priorities. You start to question your own judgment, while focusing on the negative, so you usually end up shifting your life based off of another person’s opinion. Now, you’re one step further away than you were in the first place. This is why it’s so important to know what you want, so that you can stay focused on what matters. Once you realize what comes first, nothing else matters.

Summer is Here NOW!

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Yesterday marked the first day of Summer, the season of youth and freedom.  The season that also happens to be my favorite time of the year.  As a Summer baby, I feel like these next three months are when I thrive the most.  For some reason, I feel extra motivated and, to an extent, unstoppable.  Like I said before, it is the time for youth and freedom.  Summer is the opportunity to do whatever you want.  It is the time to be daring and try new experiences.  The cold Winter air isn’t keeping you indoors and the dreary skies aren’t stifling your happiness.  It’s the perfect time to carry out your plans, achieve your goals, and enjoy yourself.  Don’t let another summer pass you by without taking full advantage of it.  I know I definitely will be doing everything I can to make sure I don’t waste my Summer.

Go For It!

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The unfortunate part of life is that we won’t always know how things will end up.  In fact, it’s almost impossible to predict how something is going to go no matter how planned out your decisions may be simply because there are so many unknown factors that can come into play.  You won’t always have the reassurance or guarantee you might want; however, that shouldn’t stop you from doing anything.  It would be great if a little voice could tell you what would happen if you made a certain decision “yes, this is the right choice” or “you really shouldn’t do this,” but that’s not how the world works.  Instead, we have to trust our guts and make an educated decision, while hoping for the best.  In other words, close your eyes and jump.  It’s the only way you’ll make some real progress in your life.  You can choose a stable job and a comfortable life that is secure or you can dare to try for a little bit (or a lot) more.  If you succeed, you won’t have to wonder what could have been as you realize your lifelong dreams.  If you don’t do too well, then you still won’t have to wonder “what if.”

There comes a point in all of our lives where we have to make that life changing decision.  Do we choose the safe and secure option that may not be what we had hoped for growing up or do we take a risk and invest everything we have in the future we dreamed of?  I think it’s almost always best to take that risk.  It’s the only way you can break out of the monotonous average life that so many of us face everyday.  Sure, give yourself a safety blanket with an education and some savings, but be brave enough to jump and let go of your “leading to nowhere” job.  Don’t cheat yourself of an opportunity because the truth is there are plenty of people who will grab at the chance if you don’t.  Figure out what you would be happy doing for the rest of your life and do it.  Commit to it and just go for it!

Progress is Beautiful

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There is so much talk about beauty.  What is it?  What makes us beautiful?  How do you measure it?  The list goes on.  You can analyze it as much as you want, but it’s true when they say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  It is completely subjective and, most times, it doesn’t even have to do with what that beautiful thing looks like.  Instead, it’s more about what feelings are sparked by it.  Love, happiness, warmth, fond memories, and optimism.  Maybe something beautiful reminds you of someone you love or perhaps it brings you hope for a better future.  Either way, beauty is all about what you’re feeling that makes something beautiful.  However, I do believe that one thing that goes hand in hand with beauty is progress, forward movement, evolution.

We all strive for happiness.  We all have goals and getting closer to that end result is simply beautiful.  Think about it.  A girl maturing into a young woman is a sign of her progression in life and it is celebrated as a beautiful time in her life, whether she has a sweet sixteen or even a quinceañero.  A graduation is a beautiful ceremony and it also symbolizes a student finishing their education and moving on to the next step in their lives.  Pregnant women have a beautiful “glow” to them because there is a being growing within them.  In nature, a flower blooming is progress in their existence and to us it is what makes Spring so special.  Sunrises and sunsets show how we go from one day to the next, but the different colors in the sky are considered some of the most beautiful scenes in nature.  Progress is beautiful.

When you’re writing a paper or doing a project for school, don’t you just stare at it once you’re done, admiring your finished work.  It might be just a stack of paper, but it’s beautiful to you because it’s done.  That step is done and you’ve progressed to what’s next.  When you get promoted at your job, you might get a certificate, an award, or even a ceremony.  People take pictures, you smile, and you feel proud.  It’s a beautiful moment.  If you’re trying to get healthy, you feel better when you get closer to your goal.  Reaching your goals, getting closer to what you want, moving forward in life is a good feeling.  Progressing is a good feeling.  It’s beautiful and that’s one thing that is universal.

 

Choices

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Everyone has to deal with external factors in their life.  There are some things that we can’t foresee or control at all.  However, I think that we always have a choice.  The way we react to these uncontrollable variables in our life is where our free will comes into play.  For example, people get sick.  It’s never planned and most times sickness has the worst possible timing, but it’s usually something that you just have to deal with until it’s gone.  You have to readjust your life until you’re healthy again, but you still have a choice.  In this case, you can choose to take medicine, still go to work, email your homework to your professor, lay in bed for the rest of the day, and the list goes on of how you can adapt to being sick.  They always vary, but you still have a choice.  When you’re thrown a curve ball, you can choose to catch it, dodge it, or get hit by it.  If you’re focused enough, catching a good pitch and dodging a bad one will be no problem.  You’ll be able to weigh your options and make a quick decision just in time.  But, if you let yourself get caught up in the world around you, I can almost guarantee that you’re gonna get hit hard.

But I will say, no matter which way your life goes, you have to take responsibility for your situation.  Own up to the fact that you had a choice and you picked wrong.  It happens.  Hindsight is twenty twenty, but, unfortunately for everyone, we live in the moment and can’t see hindsight as our life is unfolding.  We all make mistakes and there will be plenty of times where we make poor choices individually, but, if you don’t accept that you didn’t make the best decision, then how do you accept to move forward in the right direction?  The worst thing a person can do is blame their situation on another person because, at the end of the day, you always have a choice.  Even if you’re born into a situation, you can always find a better way and I can say that from experience.  No one is a victim of their surroundings, but a victim of their reaction to their surroundings.

Rather than trying to place blame, try to evaluate your options so that you can pick the best one.  You always have a choice, but it’s up to you to be smart about what you choose to do.  If you don’t like your current situation, make better choices.  Make sure everything you do works towards what you want and that what you want is what you need.  Just own up to your situation and your decisions.  It’s your life, so you can’t blame someone else for living it for you.